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Wise Woman Q&A: Amy Taylor-Kabbaz

In Wise Woman Q&A on November 2, 2016

I feel deeply at home, nourished and at peace when listening to and engaging with the depths of the soul of another. It’s a privilege that feeds me and it’s my deepest hope that it feeds you.

Today I invite you to join the inspiring, insightful and wise Amy Taylor-Kabbaz and myself on the next Wise Woman Q&A. Amy is a former journalist, mother of 3, author and owner of a beautiful business called Happy Mamma that helps mums reconnect with themselves.

Amy shares so openly about how becoming a mother 3 times over stripped her back to the deep realisation that very little of her life reflected her truth. She opens up about her driven, workaholic, unbalanced and unhealthy tendencies which had built within her over many many years and sheds light on how she replaced them.

Amy talks about how becoming a mother brought her to her knees doubting she could go on. She shares how she picked up the pieces and rebuilt her life, spirit and identity so it truly reflected who she is.

I love Amy’s compassionate reflections on the work she does in the world and how she feels like one part of a wave working to help women value themselves differently and choose a new definition of success.

So much inspiration, goodness and well earned wisdom.

 

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Wise Woman: Kelly Wendorf

In Wise Woman Q&A on October 11, 2016

I feel deeply at home, nourished and at peace when listening to and engaging with the depths of the soul of another. It’s a privilege that feeds me and it’s my deepest hope that it feeds you.

Today I invite you to join the deeply inspiring, insightful and wise Kelly Wendorf and myself on the next Wise Woman Q&A.

Kelly is a gifted writer, a facilitator of change in individuals and businesses, a guide, speaker and horsewoman. More than this, she is a genuine beacon of light and life in this world for me and many others.

Kelly shares her thoughts on listening for your calling to tether you home whilst acknowledging the deep role of humility when we inevitably find ourselves straying. She helpfully shares her challenges and the role they have had in her life alongside two of her most powerful teachers; nature and horses.

I loved listening to Kelly’s wisdom as she encourages us to remember that everything matters and the often forgotten practices of finding space and engaging with our bodies.

So much inspiration, goodness and well earned wisdom.

 

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Wise Woman Q&A with Rebecca Campbell

In Wise Woman Q&A on May 11, 2016

I feel deeply at home, nourished and at peace when listening to and engaging with the depths of the soul of another. It’s a privilege that feeds me and it’s my deepest hope that it feeds you.

Today I invite you to join the deeply inspiring, intuitive and wise Rebecca Campbell and myself on the next Wise Woman Q&A.

Rebecca is a best selling author, spiritual teacher and mentor and a deeply giving person. She shares her journey from being rock bottom and forced to surrender, to the path that resulted in her whole life feeling at home.

There is so much wisdom in her tools for coming home every day and vulnerability in how she talks about the challenges that come with a life of serving others and achieving deadlines which so many of us can relate to.

I loved learning about the incredible role nature has played in Rebecca’s life both in Australia and the UK and her insights on her creative journey that has led to her wonderful book, Light is the New Black, and two more on the way.

So much inspiration, goodness and well earned wisdom.

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Wise Woman Q&A with Anna Lovind

In Wise Woman Q&A on March 30, 2016

I feel deeply at home, nourished and at peace when listening to and engaging with the depths of the soul of another. It’s a privilege that feeds me and it’s my deepest hope that it feeds you.

Today I invite you to join the deeply grounded, insightful and truly wise Anna Lovind and myself on the next Wise Woman Q&A.

Anna is a writer, editor and creativity mentor who shares her journey home with great tenderness and insight. I love how deeply knowing herself, her desires and her true voice lies at the core of her journey home, as I believe it does for us all. She openly shares her journey of coming home to her body and how much courage it can take to make the shift from living life in our heads to accessing the wisdom and power that is untapped in our bodies. Anna shares her helpful insights on legacy and her beliefs on how to simplify our lives and invite precious empty space back in.

So much truth, goodness and well earned wisdom.

 

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Wise Women Q&A: Rachel Cole

In Wise Woman Q&A on February 24, 2016

I feel deeply at home, nourished and at peace when listening to and engaging with the depths of the soul of another. It’s a privilege that feeds me and it’s my deepest hope that it feeds you.

Today I invite you to join the deeply insightful, grounded and tender Rachel Cole and myself on the next Wise Woman Q&A.

Rachel is a coach, teacher and women’s empowerment expert and preciously and vulnerably shares her journey home from dealing with anxiety, self loathing and an eating disorder to creating an internal environment that invites her to stay. I love the compassion in her words and grounded honesty in acknowledging that being a human means messing up every day. The frenzy of unrealistic expectations, the Kardashians, the ego and having a kind relationship with yourself all make an appearance amongst many more.

So much truth, goodness and well earned wisdom.

 

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Wise Women Q&A: Ana Ottman

In Wise Woman Q&A on January 27, 2016

I feel deeply at home, nourished and at peace when listening to and engaging with the depths of the soul of another. It’s a privilege that feeds me and it’s my deepest hope that it feeds you.

Today I invite you to join the delightful, tender and deeply insightful Ana Ottman and myself on our first recorded Wise Woman Q&A.

Ana preciously and vulnerably shares her journey home from the striving and pushing of a life that was externally focused, to the peace and wisdom that came from shifting her focus internally. Yoga, business ownership, creative writing, marinating in the flavours of me, personality profiling and the treasure found in the mess of life all make an appearance amongst many more.

So much honesty, goodness and well earned wisdom.

 

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How to Make Sense of the World – Introducing The Wise Woman Series

In True Living, True Self, Wise Woman Q&A on January 20, 2016

Wisdom

 

I’ve been blessed to work, soul-to-soul, with hundreds of intelligent and beautifully open women from around the world. It’s a privilege I don’t take lightly and one of the deep blessings I count in my life.

Each one of these women are preciously unique, as are the reasons they courageously embark on a journey with me. These reasons are vibrantly varied in their specifics sitting somewhere within the realms of career, life transitions, health and relationships with themselves and others.

Yet, nestled deep inside, under those outer layers, they all share one thing – a deep yearning for guidance and wisdom on how to live as themself in this modern world.

This is a world that is more demanding, faster, noisier and busier than ever before.

This is a world in which it has sadly become common place to experience feelings of overwhelm, dis-ease, confusion, fear and loneliness.

It’s understandable that when these feelings surface, which they do for us all, we crave guidance and wisdom to support us to make sense of them and find our way in living our life in this world.

It’s my belief that so many of the answers lie within. When we find the space, courage and practice of listening inwards, in whatever way feels right, so much treasure can be found. This belief is core to my coaching and is why it’s my chosen way, alongside writing, and not one of the advice giving professions.

Yet, I deeply believe in the powerful and sacred effects of sharing our wisdom and collectively growing in consciousness on how to live.

Not every piece of wisdom will be right for us. As a recipient of wisdom we have the opportunity to catch it, place it within and discern whether it feels at home there and part of the lived experience we have already had. Maybe, even if we haven’t felt it yet in our own lives, it feels important enough to store it until the time comes when we can really experience it. Or maybe it’s meant to be released back to the outside world for someone else to catch.

There have always been challenges and complexities in life. Surely that’s an integral part of the journey of life, and in many ways is the catalyst for bubbles of wisdom to form and be captured. Yet times have changed.

For many generations wisdom sharing took place around fires, over meals, during daily working life, in places of worship and in writing and by consequence reading. Generations of women passing on their wisdom so it could be benefited from and retained within the circle of life.

Some of this exists today, yet it appears not to be as core or wide spread as it used to be for a range of reasons not least:

  • shifts in the central place of spirituality and the wisdom and philosophy it offers as an anchor to life
  • increased ease of movement creating shallower connections and a reduced role of family, a key vehicle for wisdom sharing particularly between generations
  • a loosening in the sense of community
  • excessive sharing of information via ever-growing technological platforms making it hard to find, sift and absorb the gold
  • increased busyness, speed and complexity of life
  • less celebration of and wisdom sharing at key life milestones
  • decline in the art and practices of letter writing and story telling

I have benefitted hugely from the wisdom of many dear kindred spirits and family members who role model and share freely their golden nuggets that now nestle within me.

I want to make a step towards filling the hole created by the loss of deep wisdom sharing by the modern day woman.

I want to unearth and share the wisdom of beautifully open, courageous, inspiring and deep women, rich in vulnerability and lived truths.

I am overjoyed, to the core of my being, to share with you every month a ‘Wise Woman Q&A’ interview.

A deeply introspective chat between kindred spirits sharing the stories of their journey home and their deeply lived and experienced wisdom.

This is not the beautiful dressed up in a bow, preachy, ‘you should’ kind of wisdom. It’s the real, rich, hard earned and compassionately shared wisdom which feeds the soul.

It is my hope by sharing this wisdom each one of us can walk forward feeling that bit clearer on how to live our life and can share it with future generations.

We kick off our Wise Woman Series next week with the beautiful Ana Ottman who deeply shares herself and her journey home. The inspiring Rachel W Cole joins us in February and the precious Anna Lovind in March with lots more wise women to come. Please join us and sign up here to receive notes from my heart and home and the Wise Woman videos.

Home Truth: Abby Kerr

In Wise Woman Q&A on July 1, 2015

Abby Kerr

‘Home Truths’ are an introspective conversation with a woman I deeply admire. From writers to coaches, artists to thoughts leaders, these women have wise words to share with you on coming home to yourself. I hope you enjoy.

Today I feel blessed to share with you wonderful words of wisdom from Abby Kerr. Abby has been on my radar for a few years in her capacity as the Founder and Creative Director of The Voice Bureau. I have always been memorised by her gifted and soulful way with words and ability to articulate what so many of us feel. After working with Abby on the copy for my website, I feel honoured to call her my friend. She has so much to offer this world by being her true self. Thank you Abby for all that you are and all that you do.

 

 

What does living a life from home mean to you?

At 37, I am still figuring this out for myself. This will come as no surprise to women my age and older, but I always thought that ‘by this age’ I would have myself and my life all figured out, on-track, and I’d feel perfectly satisfied with it all. The cool thing is, I am more aware than ever of who I am, who I’ve been, and who I’m coming to be — my growing edge. But there is so much more to explore! I now know for sure that I will be invested in a personal growth process my whole life long. I love that about life and appreciate that about myself — my willingness to change, to stretch, to grow.

For me, living a life from home means to keep returning to myself. To not leave myself. When I’m stressed or overwhelmed, my first impulse is to leave my body and to get hyper vigilant in my mind — surveying, assessing, judging, predicting. I get overly watchful and in some cases, overly involved, even energetically.

So to come home to myself means to me to stay right here. To tend to my boundaries, to not allow my energetic membrane to be so permeable. To recognize and name where I leave off and where others begin. To feel a sense of oneness and connection with others (which is actually quite difficult for me; I resist it), while at the same time sensing where my center is. To tell what is mine to tell and let others tell what is theirs, as writer Margaret Atwood says.

What path has your journey home taken? Was there a trigger that started the journey?

One of my big teachers has been self-employment, cultivating my own work in the world. If you want to fast track your personal growth, start a business, especially a business with a personal element to it. Because I have a very high input strength — meaning, I can absorb a lot of information very quickly, make sense of it, and extract it efficiently and expertly when needed — I was a ‘natural’ at making online connections that led to results and opportunities in my business. My first business was a brick and mortar retail boutique. While it was neat to be able to work inside that rarified world of mid- to high-end finds and furnishings, I paid a high price personally, as an introvert. So much face-time with people! In my current business, a virtual agency specializing in brand voice development and copywriting, I’m able to manage my workflow and my energy a lot more mindfully. But I still have to be very watchful about over-connecting online — too much social media time, too many Skype catch-up sessions, too many open-ended conversations across too many platforms. I’m learning to simplify, to cull, to say no more often, sometimes even just to resist the impulse to look or to join.

And most importantly, for the past few years, I have been on a journey home to myself in terms of my creativity, my writing. I’ve always identified as a writer but over the years I’d gotten away from writing purely for exploration and joy — writing fiction — and created a great writing-based business, writing web copy and content for small businesses. I love getting to write for pay, but my journey home is about writing that doesn’t imminently lead to pay. The journey of a fiction writer is typically long, non-linear/circuitous, and built for personal growth. Truly, solo business is this way, too, so I guess I’ve been practicing!

When you find yourself living your life from home, what does it feel like?

It feels grounded, expansive, lucid, vivid, and quiet. Like a silent picture show, with images both brilliant and gentle, with maybe some bird song, ocean tides, wind in the trees, and rainfall for accompaniment. Very easy on the nervous system.

How do you know when you’re not living your life from home?

I get sick — headaches, bodyaches, fatigue, tummy upset, and a tight feeling that I call a ‘sickening fist’ in my solar plexus. I get irritable, short with my partner, annoyed by lovely people, and I lose joy for the things I normally savor. Those are all cues for me to take a nap, take a bath, get on my yoga mat or down on the floor with my dogs, read a novel or a book of short stories (anything not business-related), or leave the computer and get outside in nature. I live near the beach, in the Pacific Northwest U.S.A., so there is plenty of natural healing to be had here.

What are the biggies that derail you from living from home?

I have become an expert in knowing the things that derail me, which just tells you I’ve allowed myself to be derailed a lot over the years. My derailment triggers include: starting the day with social media browsing, listening to back-to-back podcasts about business, saying yes to improptu social plans (I know — not very spontaneous), too much TV (any TV during daylight hours, really), going too many days without intentionally moving my body and watching my breath, and back to back Skype or phone consultations. Also, high-pressure fun, which to many people might be known as big parties, sporting events, or team leisure activities. Clearly, I’m an introvert.

What helps you to return to your journey home when you find yourself straying?

The first thing is noticing that I’m having a feeling I’ve felt before. The world is not coming to an end. I know this feeling. I have felt this before and have moved through it. I am likely to be able to move through it again.

The second thing is recognizing that all experiences only last for a finite time. The social event I’m attending will end. The sun will set and the day will be over. Time passes, sensations change.

The third thing is being as gentle on myself as possible, and giving myself silent encouragement to just do exactly as I like. I guess I’d call it ‘encouraging self-talk.’ And to remember that someone else probably feels the same way I do. I remind myself I’m not the only one not having the absolute best time of my life right now.

 I believe our journey home to ourselves never ends. What area(s) of your life are you working on coming home to at the moment? 

For me, that’s in my relationships with my fiction, with my family, with my finances, and with my body and health. So, pretty much all the major ones! I’m a work in progress.

Who or what inspires you to truly be you?

When I read women writers across the genres — from poetry to fiction to the essay to journalism — who are telling stories in their own distinctive way, about real people and fictional characters who may as well be real, I feel a sense of my lineage as an observer of all life, as a contemplative person, as a creative person. The more I read, the more I’m convinced that I, too, have something worth saying.

Why do you feel it is so hard for us to come home to ourselves in today’s world?

We are living in the first digital age. Future generations won’t be able to conceive of a life before all this virtual connectedness, but children today who have access to education and technology will never know what life was like before iPads, iPhones, and all the rest. Humanity has not been shaped, up to this point, for life as we know it today. I think we are obsessed with trying to figure out how to do this digital life in these organic bodies with these limitless (though essentially primitive) brains.

We are looking for models. We have a huge appetite for other people’s stories — how do you do your life? Figuring out how to live, work, love, and just be a person inside of this digital existence is a new life’s work. I’m not sure what that says about us. I’m not sure that’s good. But we are all just trying to figure it out. Many of us are trying to hold on to a sense of innate personhood without having to take ourselves completely out of the online conversation. Does that sound dramatic? It is dramatic.

What words would you share with people who yearn to come home to themselves?

Keep listening to your life. There is a part of yourself that knows how to be calmed, how to be refreshed, how to be inspired. This is the part of you that advocates for your welfare, your best interests, your life of joy and purpose. Listen to your life. It won’t lead you astray.

 

If you want to know more about Abby and the work that she does in the world visit The Voice Bureau.